God, our benevolent and gracious God, knows what pain is. He knows what disappointment feels like and He knows how stubborn mankind is because He created all things (Colossians 1:16), knows all things (Psalm 139), and can experience in perfect matrimony, all things. God is not only the creator of what is visible but what is invisible (Colossians 1:16). This includes everything in the spiritual realm, including our emotional state.

God knows first hand what pain is. Psalm 56:8 states, “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” While being pursued by his enemies, David had the wisdom to write these words. Mark D. Roberts says that:
This is quintessentially the very thing we want from God; for Him to see us and for Him to see, deal, and eradicate our pain. When we are hurting, we want God to be aware of us. Of course, we desire his help and healing. But, almost more than this, we want to know that he is still there, that he knows and cares for us.

When we are in pain, we feel isolated. That’s the crippling thing about pain. When we experience it our natural tendency is to shut everyone out. Pain and offense are tools used by the Devil to isolate individuals and make them more susceptible to spiritual attack. If the Devil can use your pain to drive a wedge between a believer and Christ; he is doing his job. For he is constantly looking to devour and deceive (1 Peter 5:8).

There is nothing worse than experiencing a painful season and feeling unseen. Feeling as if your friends, family, spouse, and co-workers cannot relate to – or simply don’t care about – your hurt. It is a crushing sensation to experience heartache and feel as if nobody cares. I know, because I have experienced this before. We fall victim and believe that our season of pain is so unique that nobody could ever relate to it and that nobody will ever understand why we feel how we do. Well, that’s a lie. If we invite Christ to meet us right where we are, knowing full well that He knows our pain and without masking our emotions, we can be triumphant in our defeats.

The greatest reassurance

As Christians, we know that God is there for us. He will never forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:6). He freely helps those who call upon Him in their time of need (Psalm 46:1) and there is nothing that can separate you from His love (Romans 8:38-39). Because of Jesus’ painful death, we can one day stand in the eternal presence and radiant glory of our Creator. Hebrews 4:15-16 tells us that Jesus can empathize with our pain and weakness:

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

Whenever I read that passage I find myself marveling at the fact we, sinful humans, can approach God’s throne with confidence, so that we can receive mercy and find grace to, “help us in our time of need.”  This proves a couple of things. First, we have a high priest, Jesus, that can emphasize with our weakness because while on earth He was fully human and tempted in every way. Second, God has the tools we need in our hour of need. It doesn’t say approach our throne, it clearly states God’s throne. In our time of need, if we look to our abilities, more likely than not, our situation will not change.

Mark 14:33-34 states, “he (Jesus) began to be deeply distressed and troubled. “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death,” he said to them. “Stay here and keep watch.”

Jesus Christ, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, was overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. He was so deeply distressed and troubled that His sweat turned to blood (Luke 22:44).  In medical terms, this is a real condition, called hematidrosis or hematohidrosis. It is a very rare medical condition that causes you to ooze or sweat blood from your skin when you’re not cut or injured and occurs under conditions of extreme physical or emotional stress. How deeply ignorant and shameful it is of us ever think that Jesus cannot comprehend what we are going through, when in fact, it is the other way around. We cannot fathom the pain He experienced on our behalf and in our rightful place.

Jesus knows all about pain and He knows your pain. He knows your depression. He knows your misery. He knows your thoughts. He knows your secret guilt. He knows your deepest fears. He knows you fully. Jesus is relational. He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). He heals and binds our wounds (Psalm 147:3). He is faithful and will do what He says (1 Thessalonians 5:24). Jesus is the epitome of love (1 John 4:8), He is forgiving (Matthew 18:21-35), slow to anger, gracious, and compassionate (Nehemiah 9:17). Jesus Christ, the Highest Priest and the only Savior of mankind, is all we need. In Him, there is freedom (Galatians 5:1).

Jesus knows what it is to suffer and He knows our pain. There are many temporary fixes to deal with your pain and the world is full of ideas. But here are three easy Biblical steps, with verses to remember, on how to deal with your pain.

Pour your heart out to God. This shifts the focus from your struggles onto Gods might.

  • Psalm 61:2 – “From the end of the earth I will cry to You, when my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I.”
  • Philippians 4:6-7 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
  • Matthew 11:28-29 – “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Be still and experience the presence and power of God.

  • Psalm 46:10 – He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

Surround yourself with seasoned Christians. Those who will speak only life into your spirit.

  • Ecclesiastes 4:12 – Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
  • Proverbs 11:14 – For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.

There are many other ways to deal with pain but those are the three every Christian can utilize. Everyone experiences pains, and while the size and scope may vary, our source of help does not. God is constant in His goodness. God loves you in your finest moment and your darkest hour.

If you are experiencing pain today please know that you have a God that cares for you and Jesus knows your pain. Your situation may seem impossible, but God makes the impossible, possible. No word from God will ever fail (Luke 1:37). There will be a day when pain, mourning, and crying will be permanently defeated (Revelation 21:4). Let us then, brothers and sisters, operate in hope and complete faith in anticipation of that day.